One’s point of view changes over time. Now that I look back on what my views on music and being a musician used to be, here are some differences I see.
A very useful proverb I once heard is “work smarter, not harder”. Here’s some ways that I’ve seen in which that could be applied to music.
10. Playing Fast Is Overrated
Well, here’s a real kicker to start. I remember thinking the exact opposite way – fast was AWESOME and slow bored me to death. Same went for a lot of people I knew or had seen – they’d been playing long enough to acquire some good technique, but they got so caught up in that that the music was forgotten.
Simply put, if you play fast all the time, you’re kind of boring. It’s one-dimensional, and the pure speed aspect is simply not impressive after the first 20 seconds, even if it was to start with.
Speed is a means, not an end. And, like all other musical tools, it’s not one you want to overuse. Good music, overall, is more impressive than blazingly fast licks. Make them part of the music, and not to show off, and then people will be impressed.
9. You Can’t Be Everything
I used to want every project I did to be everything. I wanted every solo disc I did to be every type of awesome possible. Now, when I go back and listen to some tracks, it’s painfully obvious to me that I was trying to do that. Instead of focusing on what I was doing well, I wanted to do it all and tried to push other boundaries as well. Some of it worked, I suppose – some, in retrospect, not so much.
No one thing can be everything. If you stand around working on something trying to make it be everything, it’s never going to get done. Don’t spend a zillion years in the studio producing your project trying to make it the quintessential album – you don’t have to. Let it be what it is and focus on its strengths. Do one thing with one project, and do something else with another.
Hey, an example is this post. Now that I’m into writing it, I’m thinking of more than ten things. But I’m sticking to that – I can always do a second part.
8. Playing Is Not Enough
As others have put way more eloquently than I have, being a musician is not simply about performing anymore, if it ever was. You are a small business owner. You have to network, promote, advertise, and do all kinds of other stuff in addition to creating if you want to get decent gigs or sell records. If you actually want to play music for a living, you arguably have to do all of those things as well as or better than you play.
I am horrible at self-promotion and some of the other business aspects of music. I’m not a good bullshitter and I have to be in a particular mood to be good at networking. For a few years, I beat myself up trying to do all of these things, only to make myself miserable. If I had to do it over, I’d seek out the right people to help with my weak points, and pay them to do it. Build a team.
For a long time, I bought into the bullshit myth that “if your music is good enough, it’ll sell”. NO, NO, NO, NO, NO. (Apparently, so have a lot of “experts” I am acquainted with… but I’m not going to go there) You have to do all of the above to make sure people even know about your music, and only then do you have a chance to keep them interested.
Which leads us to…
7. Your Friends Are Not The Same As Your Fans
Wait, what? They come to all my shows! They buy my CDs and merch! They’re super supportive! What the hell are you talking about?
That’s right, your friends are awesome. That’s not in dispute. After all, who wants to be friends with people who aren’t awesome? But that’s exactly it. They may dig your music, but your friends are primarily there to hang out with YOU, and to support YOU. They don’t like your music in the same way that a fan, who doesn’t otherwise know you from a hole in the wall, does.
People who are fans of your music, and not friends with you for other reasons, are the real relationships you need to cultivate at shows. Because your friends either won’t be at every single show, or they will no matter what. Fans just might, if you spend just a little extra time with them.
Never rely on your friends to be your primary audience unless you’re playing at their house. Everyone knows someone who is in a band, and actually gets mad at their friends for not going to their gigs. This is a person who doesn’t deserve to have any friends, and probably won’t very soon.
6. You Can Always Be Better Than You Are
I’m not as good as I want to be, and I hope I never am.
That’s not me being negative. It’s that people change over time, and their goals should change with them as well. If you learn a new skill, don’t stop – move on to the next one and keep the momentum going. If you’re truly committed to your craft, you’re always willing to try and make yourself better.
I’ve heard people say they’ve learned all they wanted to learn. That’s fair – they know their own limits and what they want to get out of music. Eventually, they reach that level.
On the other hand, I’ve heard some people say they’ve learned all there is to learn. Pure and utter bullshit. There is ALWAYS something you can work on that you couldn’t do before! Learn a new tune or a new technique. Take a line you know and play it slower or faster until you can’t keep the groove anymore. Thankfully, people who are that ignorant are rare, but they are out there, and don’t believe them for a second when they say such a level exists and is attainable.
I’ve learned that that is the difference between a good and great player. The truly great players are utterly relentless in their quest for new knowledge and skills, and very diligent in working to acquire them. And your childhood hero probably practices something new every day – and, hey, even for them, it’s gonna sound like crap until he or she gets it down pat.
That’s the beauty of music in a way. There is no end of challenges to face.
5. Don’t Put All Your Eggs in One Basket
This isn’t quite the same as #9. Now I’m talking about doing only one project, throwing everything into it and hoping it pans out.
Let’s look at that for a second. Say you’re playing in a band and getting a few decent gigs. Ok, great. What else could you be doing? Let’s see… other bands? Session or studio work? Songwriting and song licensing? Production or engineering? Private lessons?
You might think this was common sense, but I see all kinds of people who go all in on one project and hope to get their break from it. Which is one thing if you only have time for that and if that’s all you want to do. But if your goal is to make a living from music, take advantage of all the possible income sources you can. And if you’re not willing to diversify, don’t whine when others get ahead and you don’t.
I find it especially funny when I see adverts looking for players “willing to commit to this project and no others”. At least they’re telling you in advance that they’re control freaks, so you don’t waste your time.
Besides, would you even go all in on one project if you knew that…
4. It’s Not About the Big Break
Ok, be honest folks – how many of you, when you started out, wanted to get a record deal, get rich, blah blah blah? And how many of you did? Hmmm, not too many hands left.
I’ve never been on a major label deal, so I can’t really say what all the factors involved in having a deal with one are. I think it’s fair to say, though, that a) musical talent is only one part of the equation, and b) that luck is also definitely involved to some degree – if nothing else, being in the right place at the right time. And, out of all the jillion bands out there, how many actually ARE rich, blah blah blah? Just like the show of hands, no doubt.
Yup. Ask a lot of bands out there what their goals are, and somewhere in there is probably “get a record deal, etc”. So… why is everyone going for the Big Goal that is only slightly more easily attainable than winning the lottery? And with a whole lot more effort required?
Making a decent living in music IS possible. (I don’t do that – I made a choice to not go that way, and I have a day job that I like. Had I known what I do now ten years ago, though, who knows – I might have chosen differently.) The point is, going for the Big Break is exactly how not to do it. Those I know who ARE making a living from music do the exact opposite – they don’t just play anywhere and everywhere with one project, hoping someone will notice.
3. It’s Called An Industry For a Reason
$$$. That’s always the bottom line when you’re dealing with a business – whether it’s a bar, a record label or whatever other company involved in the music business.
Does the industry care about art? In some form, sure – but don’t kid yourself, it’s not the way you, the artist, does. As a company, they have other stuff to worry about too. Like $$$. It’s the reality of the world we live in.
So, yeah, bars want to know how many people you can bring out. Labels want to know if your music will sell. And all that. $$$ is their bottom line.
Some say they’re about the music. Maybe that’s true for some of them. But you can’t ever forget that there’s something else they’re about, too.
2. Life Is Too Short for Assholes
Anyone who’s played more than a handful of shows or done other music-related work can tell you that the business is full of assholes, be they fellow artists, middlemen or employers.
Types of assholery can vary. But, in the end, unless you’re being paid enough to forget that you’re dealing with assholes… it’s not worth it.
Walk away and find something better. You are not owed anything because you “paid dues” by working with or for shitheads. You are worth better. Being in a band is like being in a relationship – and who wants to be in a relationship with an asshole?
Chances are, if you’re like me, you’ve met many more amazing people from music than assholes, and those are the people you’d probably rather spend your time on. Cut the assholes out and do it – you’ll be happier for it and wondering why you ever wasted your time.
And why is that…? Because…
1. In the End, You’re Doing This For You
Most of you who are reading this probably don’t make your primary living from playing music. Or, if you do, you could have made more by studying accounting like your accountant dad always told you.
So why do we do this? The answer is because we love it. We love to play. That’s why we are willing to put in so much effort for what is (for most of us) a relatively small return. And, when you start factoring in other things like the industry, running a small business, money, dealing with assholes and all that other crap, it’s unbelievably easy to lose sight of why we started doing this in the first place.
Remember why you play. To hell with everyone else. You do it because YOU want to.
And here’s one about what happens when you don’t.


